Exploring midlife relationships
Couples and sex therapy exploring how early relationship experiences and midlife changes shape intimacy today.
"We feel like roommates." "Touch feels like pressure." "I miss feeling wanted." "Our bodies changed, and we don't know how to talk about it."
Most couples who find their way here aren't short on love. They just stopped speaking the same language. What you learned about love, safety, needs, and closeness can show up in how you experience desire, touch, initiation, rejection, and pleasure. Midlife brings changing bodies, hormones, health, and responsibilities that can interact with those patterns.
At EROS, couples begin to understand what is happening in their bodies, their nervous systems, and their relationship, so they can begin to turn back toward each other.
Attachment
What you learned about love, safety, needs, and closeness. These early lessons aren't destiny, and they aren't about blame. They are simply the ways each of you learned to stay connected and safe, and they can change.
Sex Therapy
How those patterns show up in desire, touch, initiation, rejection, and pleasure. Neither partner is the problem. We look at the pattern you share and what each of you needs to feel close.
Midlife
How changing bodies, feelings of nervous system safety, health, and responsibilities interact with those patterns.
That includes perimenopause, and also stress, sleep, health changes, aging parents, and shifts that affect both partners.
What therapy looks like here
I work from an Emotionally Focused Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and Somatic Sex Therapy lens. Together, we explore how early relationship experiences shape the cycle you keep getting stuck in, including what happens around emotional and sexual closeness.
We slow things down and pay attention to what is happening in each of your nervous systems. We also make room for how perimenopause and other midlife changes affect your body, desire, and connection with your partner.
Together, we work toward understanding your patterns and building emotional and sexual connection that fits the bodies and lives you have now.
My approach is:
Gentle: we go at the speed of your nervous system
Compassionate: you will be met with curiosity in this space
Relational: we explore attachment within partners, or individually
Evidence-based and ethically sound
Areas of focus
Emotional disconnection and feeling like roommates
Communication styles
Disagreement loops
Sleep problems, anxiety, and mood changes in midlife
Mismatched libido
Perimenopause and its impact on your relationship
Painful sex and a changing body
One partner feeling rejected, the other feeling pressured
Midlife transitions: empty nest, aging parents, career shifts
A private practice, not an agency
EROS is a private, licensed psychotherapy practice. You will always work directly with me, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Sex Therapist, and PhD candidate in Clinical Sexology, trained in Somatic Experiencing, not a rotating team or a treatment program. I intentionally keep a limited number of sessions each week so every client gets my full attention.
All are welcome
I work with adults across diverse identities and relationship structures, including LGBTQIA+, consensually non-monogamous, and non-traditional partnerships, and with both neurodivergent and neurotypical clients.
Therapy details
In person at my office in Show Low, in the White Mountains
Virtually anywhere in Arizona and Missouri
Cash-pay, with superbills available for insurance reimbursement
Ready to begin?
If you're curious whether we're a good fit, I'm happy to offer a free 10-minute consultation.
You belong here.